Started your natural hair journey or you are about to embark on this journey.

Stagnant growth can be very annoying. You have probably tried out that all the promising hair masks. Watched several YouTube video but your hair still won’t grow past the length that it is now. In this post, I tackled what you might be doing wrong and why your hair isn’t growing past the same length.

First off, you might want to ask yourself the following questions;

What is my hair type? (This will be discussed in another post)

Why is my hair not growing?

What could I be doing wrong?

I complied a list of reasons why your hair isn’t growing and how to grow healthy hair.

  1. Using too much heat

Understand how heat is too much. I know you love the silky, straight hair that comes with flat ironing your hair. Heat damage affects all hair type whether you are natural or relaxed.

Here are signs that you are using too much heat;
✓ Your hair shaft and natural curls becomes destroyed by the use of high and excessive heat.

✓ Your ends are seriously split, more than usual.

Use a heat protection serum on your hair, any time you want to apply heat. Although, it is not guaranteed that it reduces your chances of a damaged hair but it will reduce the possibility while adding a coating of oils to your hair that will protect and nourish it. You can also stretch your hair naturally. A good example of natural stretching is African threading.

2. Using lots of chemicals

If your hair is natural stick to natural products. There are lots of strong and abrasive cleansers(shampoo and conditioners) and this is what they do to the hair;

✓ They irritate the scalp.

✓ They cause weakened hair and regular hair loss. 

✓ They make your hair prone to regular breakage.

If you use these products regularly, you are not going to achieve that hair growth you need.

  1. You are not washing your hair right

Yes, you are washing your hair but are doing it right? Hot water does no good to your hair. It strips your hair of its natural oils, leaving your hair with no natural, valuable oil, making it look dry and brittle and dry hair leads to dandruff and itchiness. Hot water makes your hair over porous, and this prompts breakage and brittleness but warmwater stimulates the flow of blood to the follicles, which encourages hair growth. It open the cuticles on your scalp. This allows you to clean your hair thoroughly. Cold water helps to close the cuticles which gives your hair some much needed shine.

  1. You have unrealistic expectations of hair growth
Image: Toyosi Alonge

Your hair can’t just grow magically in one night or in a week. You don’t have to believe every thing being put out there. You need patience for your hair to growth. Try out new natural products, write out your goals, and give it time to work out in order to achieve a realistic goal.

  1. You are not using essential oils on your hair.
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Essential oils can help you improve the health of your hair with very little risk of side effects at an affordable price. They’re also easy to use. Making good use of essential oils like coconut oil, tea tree oil, olive oil and lavender oil really helps your oil. There are some many essential oil, find the one that is best suitable for your hair type to yield growth.  

6. You are not taking care of your diet

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If you eat right your hair will grow right. What you eat affects the growth of your hair. Lacking the right nutrients including vitamins A, C, D and E, zinc, B vitamins, iron, biotin, protein and essential fatty acids may slow down hair growth or even cause hair loss. Drinking lots of water helps too. I mentioned that in my harmattan hair care tips too! You can read more here;

  1. You don’t do protective hair styles

Protective hair styles don’t require daily hair retouching and it tucks hair away and protects it. It retains growth while growing your hair longer and keeping hair soft during the process. It gives you the opportunity to take a break from heat and styling products.
Protective hair styles like; buns, plaits, cornrows, Bantu knots and two strand twists are all protective styles. 

On low manipulation hairstyles, my locs in this picture is a good example.

Some common low manipulation hairdos include braids, flat twists, faux locs, cornrows and wigs.

  1. You do a lot of tight hair styles

If the hair is pulled back too tightly, it can break away from its roots, which can result in splitting, hairweakness, and follicle damage. Make sure you keep the start of the braid loose. Braids that are too tight can also cause tensile stress, which occurs when there is constant tugging on hair follicles.

Styling your hair too often can also be a major reason why your hair isn’t growing. Let your hair breathe.

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Travelling can be really tedious especially with the cramped seats that comes with road travel. I compiled a few tips in which you can make your travel more fun and engaging.

  1. Drugs

Painkillers will come in handy because of the stress that comes with travelling generally and capsules in case of a stomach upset.

  1. Snack bag

Your snack bag should consist of your favorite snack and water. Be sure to avoid anything that will upset your stomach.

  1. Power bank

In order to arrive at your destination without worrying how to communicate with your host with a dead phone. You need a power bank to recharge and stay on.

  1. Earphones

Using your earphones to watch your favorite movie or music while on a road trip is the best thing ever. It is a good way to keep your own company.

5. A Chat Buddy

Spend time online chatting with your favorite person, especially if your destination is far.

I hope you found my tips helpful. If you have other tips you add to it in the comment section.

Thank you so much for reading!

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Hi guys, welcome back to my blog!

Today’s post is going to about 10 things you didn’t know about me/10 truth about me. This is me exposing myself lol.

✓ I know it is crazy but I prefer liver to meat.

✓ I have had two surgeries on my body.

✓ I don’t enjoy vibrant social event with lots of people. I’d rather be alone

✓ I often think about what I should have said in a conversation long after it has taken place.

✓ I often rely on other people to be the one to start the conversation and keep it going.

✓ I can stay a whole week all by myself without feeling bored.

✓ I have a careful and methodical approach to life.

✓ I am still bothered about the mistakes I have made a long time ago.

✓ At parties or similar event, I am mostly found farther away from the action.

✓ I’m rarely honest with the person who matters most—myself.

If you missed any of my previous posts, here is it;

1.  My Ultimate Holiday Bucket List—Blogmas day 1



3. 10 books you need to read this Christmas—blogmas day 3

4.  My top best movies of 2020—blogmas day 4

5.  12 random act of (Christmas) kindness ideas—blogmas day 5


6.  My top best blog of 2020(part 1)—blogmas day 6


Thank you so much for reading!

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Christmas isn’t about the gift you give or the ones you receive. Christmas is a great time to spread joy. Here are random act of kindness that require little or no money;

  1. Donate your old clothes.

2. Give up your seat on the bus to someone standing.

3. Pay for a stranger’s cab fee.

4. Write a positive review on your favorite vlog, blog, website, or a friend’s social media account.

5. Complement the first stranger you see today.

6. Send a positive message to your family and friends.

7. Give out Christmas gifts to an orphanage.

8. Smile to 5 strangers today.

9. Send a letter consisting of a list of things you love about your partner.

10. Practice self kindness

11. Do a favor without asking for anything in return.

12. Spend the whole day without complaining.

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Hi beautiful people! I’m back with another update, yay! Thank you so Wendy for nominating me for the Blogger recognition award. Follow Wendy as she shares her natural hair journey, tips and tricks on how to get that healthy hair. Amazing right? You don’t want to miss out when she uploads so subscribe to her blog here

The Rules

  • Thank the blogger that nominated you and give a link to their site
  • Do a post to show your award
  • Give a summary of how your blog started
  • Give two pieces of advice for any new bloggers
  • Select at least 15 other bloggers for this award
  • Let each nominee know you’ve nominated them and give a link to your post

About the Blogger Recognition Award

The Blogger Recognition Award is an award given in recognition of all the hard work that goes into creating a blog. It is a way for bloggers to support, motivate and promote other bloggers who have clearly put in huge amounts of time and effort, and produced valuable content.

How my blog started

My blog started in June 2018. Although, i didn’t post content consistently until 2020. I started blogging because I wanted my voice to be heard. I needed that platform to inspire people and share my life growth. I’m a multi-niched writer so i just started by posting anything. So, I just basically blog about anything and everything. My blog is still a work in progress though—there is still a lot to learn and there might be a lot of changes in the future. If you have been following my blog, thank you so much for your support. I love y’all.

My advice for new bloggers.

  • DO YOU

You opened that blog for a reason. Do you, Like it was said in Sauti sol’s album(Midnight train) ‘Do what make you happy, do what makes you smile.’ You have started doing what makes you happy by opening that blog. Have a niche and stick to it. If you’re a multi-niched writer like me, just be creative and go with the flow. Have a posting schedule that will be convenient for you too.


It is as simple as that, during the lockdown, when I became more consistent. I started supporting other bloggers. I have made so many blogger friends in the past 6 months. I’d advise you to follow people who are in your niche. Creating content is really hard—follow people in your niche and learn from them.

My Nominations

1. Emmanuella Nwanua

2. Adedeji Isreal Pen Writes

3. That girl who speaks

4. Introvert next door

5. Feast diary life

6. Labake’s beauty blog

7. Inspiration with Lois

8. Dearly written

9. Cup of tee

10. Girl with a blog

11. Rhoda’s diary

12. Aderemie’s haven

13. Anjaliutters

14. Chigwushim

15. Heart to heart talk with Erinma

PS: No pressure to anyone who doesn’t feel like doing this.

Check out the blogs of those I nominated—do have a blessed day and don’t forget to do what makes you happy.

Thanks again to Wendy for nominating me—you’re amazing!