It’s been a very long week and exhausting week and through it all, my mental health managed to be back on track . If you have followed my recent post. https://yosiblog.com.ng/2020/10/21/living-in-fear-life-update/

I’m very sure you will understand what I’m talking about.

I’ve decided to ask few of my friends the hardest part of being Nigerian.

Nigeria /naɪˈdʒɪə.ɹɪə/Noun

A Country in West Africa, south of the country of Niger. Official name: Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Ayomide Ogunsiakan


I told my friend i was writing this and he said, “Hmmm. There’s the hardest part? I thought it was the whole experience.”
And I couldn’t agree more.

As a Nigerian, you should always have second options because life (read government) comes at you fast, with what you once considered a grand master plan being ruined by policies made to frustrate the lives of citizens.
You are constantly faced with the risk of death either by SARS or the terrible roads in the country, and I’m honestly being generous by limiting it to these two.
As a Nigerian you are surrounded by people who constantly romanticise suffering, such that you are made to feel undeserving if things are relatively easy for you. You are tagged as disrespectful for demanding accountability. The older person is always right even when he is obviously a fool.

Being Nigerian is having to deal with a strong feeling of helplessness, the leaders constantly gaslight and insult your intelligence such that you begin to think it’s all in your head. You get so accustomed to dysfunction that you celebrate the barest minimum. You need connection to get EVERYTHING, even when you are ordinarily supposed to get it on merit.

On a more personal level, it is studying law in a country where leaders have no regard for the law. It is receiving substandard education and having lecturers that mark you down just to fuel their already inflated ego. It is getting constantly harassed and watching the perpetrators move freely because the law makes seeking justice unbearable. It is dealing with misogynistic men who don’t see a problem with their barbaric thinking because they live in a society that supports it. It is having to deal with uncertainties and having dreams dashed by selfish and corrupt leaders.
Finally, it is being forced to remain hopeful and thrive in a country that is currently hanging on a thread.

Chioma Onuegbu

The Nigerian society is poorly structured which makes it hard even to get some basic things.

Personally, I have had my own fair share of the terrible roads, the bad educational system, the bad health care system.

In Nigeria, Everything revolves around how much money you have to be comfortable and attain some certain things. You must have money to make money or to be considered an influential person.

Tobi Adalumo

NIGERIA!!!

Every country on the surface of the earth has its ups and downs, but when the negatives outshine the positives over a long period of time and the government does next to nothing to change the situation of things, the government of such a country is referred to as a failed one.

Tobi Adalumo

Sadly, this is the present condition of a once great and respected nation; Nigeria.
There are so many difficult parts to being a Nigerian.
First, is the absence of social, economic and political liberty.
SOCIAL – Any gathering that involves young people having fun, partying and having a good time, SARS officials troop in from nowhere, uninvited, harassing everyone all for nothing. We are referred to as cultists and Yahoo boys and girls just because we are living better than they did in their youth, because we use expensive clothing and gadgets. Our social freedom has been trampled upon and no one seems bothered enough to do something about it.

ECONOMIC – The best jobs and opportunities are hoarded, being reserved for the children of the wealthy and influential in the society, even those of them who do not merit such jobs and opportunities such as scholarships among others. A country that has so much wealth, yet the majority of the populace are poor and can’t boldly boast of three complete meals a day.

POLITICAL – A country that does not involve her youth in the Nation-Building agenda is bound for failure. The youth are said to be the future of a Nation. In Nigeria however, the youth are just there; existing, with no plan for us. Looking at Nigeria, one would realize that it’s the same generation that has been at the helm of affairs from independence till now. How is such a country is supposed to make progress?
This is my country, where I should feel safest, there’s the fear of dying at any time as a by-product of lack of adequacy in securing of lives and property. Travelling from one state to another, one comes across 15-30, sometimes more security checkpoints comprising the Army, Police, Civil Defense, Special Operations Unit amongst others. Still, we hear of armed robberies, kidnappings, rituals among other crimes being committed on these same roads. One then wonders, “What good do these military and para-military officers serve other than specializing at collecting bribes?”


Perhaps, the most difficult part to being an average Nigerian is living each day not knowing what the future holds for you.
Another difficulty, and this might seem funny is trying to convince a foreigner you met on the internet, especially Americans that we don’t live in huts in Nigeria and Africa in general. Most times, I feel like insulting them for making such statements. On the other hand however, I do not blame them. Our leaders have made it so, that asides the initial relegation of Nigeria and Africa by Europeans, they themselves (our leaders) have contributed greatly to this problem by representing us wrongly in the international community. I made a comment in a Play Station Group on Facebook earlier this year. We were to comment on a game that was just released along with our country of origin and residence. I made mine like everyone else, the mistake I made was to type NIGERIA. Next I knew, someone replied me saying “Nigeria?”

How the fuck are you online?

“I heard there’s no electricity in that country.”

I felt ashamed and sorry for myself and my country.


A Dubai citizen made a statement a few months back saying “Dubai has not up ¼ of Nigeria’s natural resources, yet Dubai is one of the fastest, not growing but developing places in the world, because we have a good leader, something which Nigeria lacks.”


After hearing this, I sat to think and wonder if there is indeed hope for this country—and just when I had lost hope, — the youth of Nigeria stsrted a revolution to take control of their future. Read(#EndSARS protests). The greatest of revolution takes time but I know there is hope for Nigeria.

Esther Adekunle

I think the hardest part of being a Nigerian is the fact that we are all constantly in fear. Each time, we hit road all we can do pray and hope we are not kidnapped or even involved in an accident due to the bad roads.

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WHAT IS THE HARDEST PART OF BEING A NIGERIAN?

BLOGGER RECOGNITION AWARD.

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The Rules

  • Thank the blogger that nominated you and give a link to their site
  • Do a post to show your award
  • Give a summary of how your blog started
  • Give two pieces of advice for any new bloggers
  • Select at least 15 other bloggers for this award
  • Let each nominee know you’ve nominated them and give a link to your post

About the Blogger Recognition Award

The Blogger Recognition Award is an award given in recognition of all the hard work that goes into creating a blog. It is a way for bloggers to support, motivate and promote other bloggers who have clearly put in huge amounts of time and effort, and produced valuable content.

How my blog started

My blog started in June 2018. Although, i didn’t post content consistently until 2020. I started blogging because I wanted my voice to be heard. I needed that platform to inspire people and share my life growth. I’m a multi-niched writer so i just started by posting anything. So, I just basically blog about anything and everything. My blog is still a work in progress though—there is still a lot to learn and there might be a lot of changes in the future. If you have been following my blog, thank you so much for your support. I love y’all.

My advice for new bloggers.

  • DO YOU

You opened that blog for a reason. Do you, Like it was said in Sauti sol’s album(Midnight train) ‘Do what make you happy, do what makes you smile.’ You have started doing what makes you happy by opening that blog. Have a niche and stick to it. If you’re a multi-niched writer like me, just be creative and go with the flow. Have a posting schedule that will be convenient for you too.

  • SUPPORT OTHER BLOOGERS.

It is as simple as that, during the lockdown, when I became more consistent. I started supporting other bloggers. I have made so many blogger friends in the past 6 months. I’d advise you to follow people who are in your niche. Creating content is really hard—follow people in your niche and learn from them.


My Nominations

1. Emmanuella Nwanua

2. Adedeji Isreal Pen Writes

3. That girl who speaks

4. Introvert next door

5. Feast diary life

6. Labake’s beauty blog

7. Inspiration with Lois

8. Dearly written

9. Cup of tee

10. Girl with a blog

11. Rhoda’s diary

12. Aderemie’s haven

13. Anjaliutters

14. Chigwushim

15. Heart to heart talk with Erinma

PS: No pressure to anyone who doesn’t feel like doing this.

Check out the blogs of those I nominated—do have a blessed day and don’t forget to do what makes you happy.

Thanks again to Wendy for nominating me—you’re amazing!

@thetoyosio

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LIEBSTER AWARD!

Hi beautiful people, I’m back again with another blog post!

Donut is a supportive and amazing blogger.

Special thanks to Donut for nominating me for my first ever blogger award. Y’all should check out her blog for everything and anything you need to know about med school, faith—do follow her blog for inspiring posts.

WHAT IS THE LIEBSTER AWARD?

The Liebster Award is an award that exists only on the internet and is given to bloggers by other bloggers. The earliest case of the award goes as far back as 2011. Liebster in German means sweetest, kindest, nicest, dearest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued, cute, endearing, and welcome.

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The Rules:

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  2. Answer the 11 questions given to you.
  3. Nominate 11 other bloggers.
  4. Ask your nominees 11 questions.
  5. Notify your nominees once you’ve uploaded your post.

MY ANSWERS TO DONUT’S QUESTIONS

1. Your all-time favorite book/movie?

My all-time favorite book is THE ROOKIE PIRATES

2. Iced coffee or milktea?

Milk tea

3. If you had the ability to turn back time, what time period would you return to? 

This is actually a difficult question to answer, because as a woman certain eras were not less than kind to a woman. There are still several that would be fascinating to choose from though.

I’d like to return to the 69 BC. This might sound weird to some people. I’d love to know Cleopatra and probably be in her court. I would love to witness it all first hand instead of reading about her on the internet—her intelligence, political preferences, her top skill in using people to reach her goal, abdher seductive prowess, intelligence, mannerisms, likability, politics & using people to reach her goal.

4. If you could swap lives with a celebrity for a day, who would it be?

Maya Angelou.

Maya lived a fulfilling life. I’d want to achieve a lot like her—if not more. She was a memoirist, and civil rights activist. She published seven autobiographies, three books of essays, several books of poetry, and is credited with a list of plays, movies, and television shows spanning over 50 years. She received dozens of awards and more than 50 honorary degrees.

5. If this pandemic never existed, what would you be doing right now?

I’d just be mainly focused on school—nothing more.

6. If you could get rid of one vegetable or fruit in the entire world, what would it be and why?

I don’t think I’d want to get rid of any vegetable or fruit in the entire world for now.

7. Name one musical instrument you’ve always wanted to learn how to play.

Guitar—i just started learning how to play it. I’m still trying to get my E minor chords right.

8. If you had the opportunity to make up a word and have it added to the dictionary, what would it be and what does it mean?

Menusis: A change in menu.
It doesn't make any sense lol.

9.Name 3 items from your wishlist.

Need: A new phone
Want: A new laptop
Want: New skincare products.

10. If you could meet one famous person, dead or alive, who would it be and why?

It would still be Maya Angelou. I have so many questions to ask her.

11. Your life goals. Name at least two!

I want to be able to give to the less privileged. I hope to be a renowned pharmacist and blogger in the future.


My nominees

1. Erinma

2. WENDY

3. Joelad

4. Mheerah-dee

5. Labake

6. Mola

7. Rahma

8. Esther

9. Ebose

10.Emmanuel

11. You! Yeah you, I tagged you.

P.S. No pressure to anyone who doesn’t feel like doing this.

Questions for my nominees.

Please answer the same questions i answered.

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