It’s been a very long week and exhausting week and through it all, my mental health managed to be back on track . If you have followed my recent post. https://yosiblog.com.ng/2020/10/21/living-in-fear-life-update/
I’m very sure you will understand what I’m talking about.
I’ve decided to ask few of my friends the hardest part of being Nigerian.
A Country in West Africa, south of the country of Niger. Official name: Federal Republic of Nigeria.
I told my friend i was writing this and he said, “Hmmm. There’s the hardest part? I thought it was the whole experience.”
And I couldn’t agree more.
As a Nigerian, you should always have second options because life (read government) comes at you fast, with what you once considered a grand master plan being ruined by policies made to frustrate the lives of citizens.
You are constantly faced with the risk of death either by SARS or the terrible roads in the country, and I’m honestly being generous by limiting it to these two.
As a Nigerian you are surrounded by people who constantly romanticise suffering, such that you are made to feel undeserving if things are relatively easy for you. You are tagged as disrespectful for demanding accountability. The older person is always right even when he is obviously a fool.
Being Nigerian is having to deal with a strong feeling of helplessness, the leaders constantly gaslight and insult your intelligence such that you begin to think it’s all in your head. You get so accustomed to dysfunction that you celebrate the barest minimum. You need connection to get EVERYTHING, even when you are ordinarily supposed to get it on merit.
On a more personal level, it is studying law in a country where leaders have no regard for the law. It is receiving substandard education and having lecturers that mark you down just to fuel their already inflated ego. It is getting constantly harassed and watching the perpetrators move freely because the law makes seeking justice unbearable. It is dealing with misogynistic men who don’t see a problem with their barbaric thinking because they live in a society that supports it. It is having to deal with uncertainties and having dreams dashed by selfish and corrupt leaders.
Finally, it is being forced to remain hopeful and thrive in a country that is currently hanging on a thread.
The Nigerian society is poorly structured which makes it hard even to get some basic things.
Personally, I have had my own fair share of the terrible roads, the bad educational system, the bad health care system.
In Nigeria, Everything revolves around how much money you have to be comfortable and attain some certain things. You must have money to make money or to be considered an influential person.
Every country on the surface of the earth has its ups and downs, but when the negatives outshine the positives over a long period of time and the government does next to nothing to change the situation of things, the government of such a country is referred to as a failed one.Tobi Adalumo
Sadly, this is the present condition of a once great and respected nation; Nigeria.
There are so many difficult parts to being a Nigerian.
First, is the absence of social, economic and political liberty.
SOCIAL – Any gathering that involves young people having fun, partying and having a good time, SARS officials troop in from nowhere, uninvited, harassing everyone all for nothing. We are referred to as cultists and Yahoo boys and girls just because we are living better than they did in their youth, because we use expensive clothing and gadgets. Our social freedom has been trampled upon and no one seems bothered enough to do something about it.
ECONOMIC – The best jobs and opportunities are hoarded, being reserved for the children of the wealthy and influential in the society, even those of them who do not merit such jobs and opportunities such as scholarships among others. A country that has so much wealth, yet the majority of the populace are poor and can’t boldly boast of three complete meals a day.
POLITICAL – A country that does not involve her youth in the Nation-Building agenda is bound for failure. The youth are said to be the future of a Nation. In Nigeria however, the youth are just there; existing, with no plan for us. Looking at Nigeria, one would realize that it’s the same generation that has been at the helm of affairs from independence till now. How is such a country is supposed to make progress?
This is my country, where I should feel safest, there’s the fear of dying at any time as a by-product of lack of adequacy in securing of lives and property. Travelling from one state to another, one comes across 15-30, sometimes more security checkpoints comprising the Army, Police, Civil Defense, Special Operations Unit amongst others. Still, we hear of armed robberies, kidnappings, rituals among other crimes being committed on these same roads. One then wonders, “What good do these military and para-military officers serve other than specializing at collecting bribes?”
Perhaps, the most difficult part to being an average Nigerian is living each day not knowing what the future holds for you.
Another difficulty, and this might seem funny is trying to convince a foreigner you met on the internet, especially Americans that we don’t live in huts in Nigeria and Africa in general. Most times, I feel like insulting them for making such statements. On the other hand however, I do not blame them. Our leaders have made it so, that asides the initial relegation of Nigeria and Africa by Europeans, they themselves (our leaders) have contributed greatly to this problem by representing us wrongly in the international community. I made a comment in a Play Station Group on Facebook earlier this year. We were to comment on a game that was just released along with our country of origin and residence. I made mine like everyone else, the mistake I made was to type NIGERIA. Next I knew, someone replied me saying “Nigeria?”
How the fuck are you online?
“I heard there’s no electricity in that country.”
I felt ashamed and sorry for myself and my country.
A Dubai citizen made a statement a few months back saying “Dubai has not up ¼ of Nigeria’s natural resources, yet Dubai is one of the fastest, not growing but developing places in the world, because we have a good leader, something which Nigeria lacks.”
After hearing this, I sat to think and wonder if there is indeed hope for this country—and just when I had lost hope, — the youth of Nigeria stsrted a revolution to take control of their future. Read(#EndSARS protests). The greatest of revolution takes time but I know there is hope for Nigeria.
I think the hardest part of being a Nigerian is the fact that we are all constantly in fear. Each time, we hit road all we can do pray and hope we are not kidnapped or even involved in an accident due to the bad roads.
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