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Hi beautiful people, a lot has happened this year but here you are reading this post. I was rewatching the movie ‘Life in a year’ for the umpeenth time this year when this post came to mind.

2020 has been the roughest year for most people, I have lost a lot of people this year, lost so many opportunities due to the pandemic but despite being a rough year—2020 was still a year of awakening for most of us. Here are a few lessons I have learnt in the year 2020;

✓ Just do it

You want to open that business, write that book, be more consistent, take a day off, practice self care—just do it. Time waits for no one. Don’t procrastinate.

✓ You only have this moment, you can’t live 31/12/2020 twice.

✓ You are not lazy if you aren’t productive all the time. Taking a time off for yourself is not lazy or selfish.

✓ Don’t give way for fear, don’t let fear control you.

✓ Be grateful even for the seemingly little things.

✓ Don’t judge, hear the other person out first.


Safe to say 2020 is a wrap. This year was definitely my year of awakening. I became more intentional about a lot of things. I have learnt so much this year and I hope to apply them next year. I don’t have anything planned out for the new year yet but I hope to be a better version of myself. I am also grateful to every who has supported my blog this year.

Thank you so much for reading! I hope you an amazing and blissful 2021. Happy new year in advance.



Travelling can be really tedious especially with the cramped seats that comes with road travel. I compiled a few tips in which you can make your travel more fun and engaging.

  1. Drugs

Painkillers will come in handy because of the stress that comes with travelling generally and capsules in case of a stomach upset.

  1. Snack bag

Your snack bag should consist of your favorite snack and water. Be sure to avoid anything that will upset your stomach.

  1. Power bank

In order to arrive at your destination without worrying how to communicate with your host with a dead phone. You need a power bank to recharge and stay on.

  1. Earphones

Using your earphones to watch your favorite movie or music while on a road trip is the best thing ever. It is a good way to keep your own company.

5. A Chat Buddy

Spend time online chatting with your favorite person, especially if your destination is far.

I hope you found my tips helpful. If you have other tips you add to it in the comment section.

Thank you so much for reading!

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Hi guys, welcome back to my blog!

Today’s post is going to about 10 things you didn’t know about me/10 truth about me. This is me exposing myself lol.

✓ I know it is crazy but I prefer liver to meat.

✓ I have had two surgeries on my body.

✓ I don’t enjoy vibrant social event with lots of people. I’d rather be alone

✓ I often think about what I should have said in a conversation long after it has taken place.

✓ I often rely on other people to be the one to start the conversation and keep it going.

✓ I can stay a whole week all by myself without feeling bored.

✓ I have a careful and methodical approach to life.

✓ I am still bothered about the mistakes I have made a long time ago.

✓ At parties or similar event, I am mostly found farther away from the action.

✓ I’m rarely honest with the person who matters most—myself.

If you missed any of my previous posts, here is it;

1.  My Ultimate Holiday Bucket List—Blogmas day 1



3. 10 books you need to read this Christmas—blogmas day 3

4.  My top best movies of 2020—blogmas day 4

5.  12 random act of (Christmas) kindness ideas—blogmas day 5


6.  My top best blog of 2020(part 1)—blogmas day 6


Thank you so much for reading!

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Whether you’re an avid reader or an aspiring blogger looking for a little inspiration in your life, here’s a list of my top best blogs of 2020. Please don’t forget to check these blogs out. Enjoy!

1.  Into Wendy’s Mind  (everythingnappy.wordpress.com)

Wendy is the creator of Everything Nappy, a lifestyle blog where she gives advice about the things she loves including hair, beauty, health(period care) although her main focus seems to be about hair.

2. Ericotrips (ericotrips.wordpress.com)

Traveling is undoubtedly a large number of people favorite niche. Who doesn’t love to discover and experience different cultures and places around the world. Ericotrips is a travel blog founded by Eromonsele Emmanuel, where he posts incredible photos from different locations we all dream to go visit. He also posts safety travel measures and his experiences on different modes of transportation.

3.  Azilde Elizabeth (azildeelizabeth.com)

The site is as much about Elizabeth sumptuous food porn photography and her mouth-watering recipes.
Her blog features an extensive collection of recipes, across a wide range of food categories to make.

  1. Positive Re-orientation Of The Mind(vheevian.home.blog)

Vivian Anegbe is the founder of PROM. She says she is a creative set out to defy all odds and the unconventional writer.
Vivian takes the complex world of emotions and makes them easy to understand and work with for greater peace, calm, and confidence. PROM’S VISION AND MISSION is to help re-orientate people by replacing toxic negative thoughts with more positive ones for a better sense of well-being.

5. Safe place blog(safeplaceonline.wordpress.com)

Safe place blog is founded by Titilayo Adeleke—Diagnosed With Bipolar Affective Disorder, Titi created a Community which centers around mental health to help those living with mental illnesses. Her posts range on all topics related to mental health, including discussions about stigma, intrusive thoughts, and how to function and be productive while living with depression and anxiety.

6.  Labake’s Beauty Blog(labakeblog.com)

The blog was founded by Labake and the focus is on lifestyle, beauty and skincare.

Thanks you so much for reading.
What are your top best blogs of 2020?
Please do check out the blogs I listed.

Do have a wonderful day! Stay blessed.

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Christmas isn’t about the gift you give or the ones you receive. Christmas is a great time to spread joy. Here are random act of kindness that require little or no money;

  1. Donate your old clothes.

2. Give up your seat on the bus to someone standing.

3. Pay for a stranger’s cab fee.

4. Write a positive review on your favorite vlog, blog, website, or a friend’s social media account.

5. Complement the first stranger you see today.

6. Send a positive message to your family and friends.

7. Give out Christmas gifts to an orphanage.

8. Smile to 5 strangers today.

9. Send a letter consisting of a list of things you love about your partner.

10. Practice self kindness

11. Do a favor without asking for anything in return.

12. Spend the whole day without complaining.

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Day 4

2020 has not been the best year for everyone But despite everything, these movies has made my year, helped my get through lockdown. I compiled a list of my top best movies of 2020.

Becky(Thriller or action)

Spunky and rebellious Becky tries to reconnect with her father during a weekend getaway at a lakefront house. But the trip soon takes a turn for the worse when convicts on the run, led by the merciless Dominick, suddenly invade the home.

Life in a year(Romance)

When 17-year-old Daryn learns his girlfriend is dying, he sets out to give her a lifetime’s worth of experiences in the year she has left to live.


To save her ailing father from serving in the Imperial Army, a fearless young woman disguises herself as a man to battle northern invaders in China.

To All the Boys: P.S. I Still Love You(Romance)

As her relationship with Peter continues to grow, Lara Jean reunites with another recipient of one of her old love letters.

ENOLA HOLMES(Crime/Adventure)

While searching for her missing mother, intrepid teen Enola Holmes uses her sleuthing skills to outsmart big brother Sherlock and help a runaway lord.

Fate of Alakada(comedy)

Yetunde (Toyin Abraham) is now a social media influencer still living the fake life and pretending to be a Lagos success. After sneaking into a movie premiere event with her trusted friend and fellow ‘fakester’, Kas (Broda Shaggi), she pretends to be an event planner after hearing how much money canbe made from the profession. Yetunde must now fake her way through bringing Celebrity guests she pretends to know and throwing the best party for Swanky Jerry & his babe Stephanie, that Lagos has ever seen.The movie aims to poke fun at social media fakeness and the current Nigerian pop culture.


A bright student in Nigeria takes on the academic establishment when she reports a popular professor who tried to rape her.

Onward (Family/Comedy)

Teenage elf brothers Ian and Barley embark on a magical quest to spend one more day with their late father. Like any good adventure, their journey is filled with cryptic maps, impossible obstacles and unimaginable discoveries. But when dear Mom finds out her sons are missing, she teams up with the legendary manticore to bring her beloved boys back home.

The invisible Man(Horror/Thriller)

After staging his own suicide, a crazed scientist uses his power to become invisible to stalk and terrorize his ex-girlfriend. When the police refuse to believe her story, she decides to take matters into her own hands and fight back.

His house

A refugee couple makes a harrowing escape from war-torn South Sudan, but then they struggle to adjust to their new life in an English town that has an evil lurking beneath the surface.

The craft: Legacy (Fantasy/Horror)

An eclectic foursome of aspiring teenage witches get more than they bargained for as they lean into their newfound powers.


Kiera Allen as a homeschooled teenager who begins to suspect her mother (Sarah Paulson) is keeping a dark secret from her. 

What are your top best movies of 2020?

Please share in the comments. Have a blessed week!

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Harmattan is a season in West Africa, which occurs between the end of November and the middle of March. It is characterized by the dry and dusty northeasterly trade wind, of the same name, which blows from the Sahara Desert over West Africa into the Gulf of Guinea.
en.m.wikipedia.org › wiki › Harmattan

During the Harmattan period the dry and dusty wind sucks out moisture of out of our hair which makes it more prone to breakage. I compiled a list of helpful Harmattan hair care tips that have worked for me over the years;

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It is recommended to drink at least a litre of water a day. You are more likely at risk of dehydration due to the weather. A dehydrated body is bad for the skin, hair and the general health of the body. Drinking lots of water helps your hair stay hydrated and healthy.


I recently started using this leave in conditioner by mega growth and it has been the best thing ever—it leaves my hair feeling moisturized and it contains a blend of natural oils (olive, shea, argan, avocado, coconut) and conditioning proteins that help strengthen hair deep inside with daily defense against breakage, split ends and dryness.
Fun fact: It is not expensive.
I also use Shea butter to moisturize my hair before sealing it.


Special thanks to a friend who recommended the Egg Yolk-Honey Hair Mask. I tried it out in November before I had my protective hairstyle on. It softens your hair and helps it regain moisture. It is super affordable too. You only need;
1 egg yolk
1 tablespoon honey
1 tablespoon almond oil/coconut oil


Co-washing means “conditioner-only washing.” When cowashing during the Harmattan period, it is advisable to use warm water—not scalding hot instead of cold water. This is also a good method of retaining moisture.


After moisturizing, it is advisable to seal. This is the best time to get them braids, weave or wig done in order to protect your hair. Remember, tight hair are not a form of a protective style but a destructive style.


This is optional, if you haven’t gotten a trim in a while, get one to get rid of your split ends. Here is a picture of my first trim this year.


Thank you so much for reading.

If you missed Blogmas day 1, you can read it here https://yosiblog.com.ng/2020/12/04/my-ultimate-holiday-bucket-list-blogmas-day-1/

Do you have any more tips that have worked for you? Please share in the comment section.

Have a blessed weekend ❤️

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Christmas is the celebration of the birth of Christ. It is a great time for us to understand the lessons from Jesus & reflect on them. It is also a vision of doing everything with a positive mindset and from a place of love.

What is Blogmas?
Blogmas is an advent calendar for blogger.
With Christmas—which is just a few weeks away. I will be planning out holiday related content whilst I get prepared for the festive period.


  • Show a random act of kindness to a stranger.
    Since Christmas is all about positivity and showing love. Paying for a stranger’s transportation fee, donating food and clothes to the less privileged would be the sweetest thing to do.
  • Take myself on a date.
    This is a great opportunity for me to get dressed and look pretty once again since I sat in my pjs for the most of 2020 working online, watching movies and studying hard.

  • Volunteer
    Helping others is also a good way of spreading joy.
  • Spreading love to my friends and family. I recently joined this challenge where I send love letters to my friends and family that has made my 2020.

What is your holiday bucket list?

Comment below if you liked my bucket list and feel free to add yours in the comment section.

Please don’t forget to share this post to your family and friends.

Happy holidays!❤️

Let’s be friends!

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It’s been a very long week and exhausting week and through it all, my mental health managed to be back on track . If you have followed my recent post. https://yosiblog.com.ng/2020/10/21/living-in-fear-life-update/

I’m very sure you will understand what I’m talking about.

I’ve decided to ask few of my friends the hardest part of being Nigerian.

Nigeria /naɪˈdʒɪə.ɹɪə/Noun

A Country in West Africa, south of the country of Niger. Official name: Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Ayomide Ogunsiakan

I told my friend i was writing this and he said, “Hmmm. There’s the hardest part? I thought it was the whole experience.”
And I couldn’t agree more.

As a Nigerian, you should always have second options because life (read government) comes at you fast, with what you once considered a grand master plan being ruined by policies made to frustrate the lives of citizens.
You are constantly faced with the risk of death either by SARS or the terrible roads in the country, and I’m honestly being generous by limiting it to these two.
As a Nigerian you are surrounded by people who constantly romanticise suffering, such that you are made to feel undeserving if things are relatively easy for you. You are tagged as disrespectful for demanding accountability. The older person is always right even when he is obviously a fool.

Being Nigerian is having to deal with a strong feeling of helplessness, the leaders constantly gaslight and insult your intelligence such that you begin to think it’s all in your head. You get so accustomed to dysfunction that you celebrate the barest minimum. You need connection to get EVERYTHING, even when you are ordinarily supposed to get it on merit.

On a more personal level, it is studying law in a country where leaders have no regard for the law. It is receiving substandard education and having lecturers that mark you down just to fuel their already inflated ego. It is getting constantly harassed and watching the perpetrators move freely because the law makes seeking justice unbearable. It is dealing with misogynistic men who don’t see a problem with their barbaric thinking because they live in a society that supports it. It is having to deal with uncertainties and having dreams dashed by selfish and corrupt leaders.
Finally, it is being forced to remain hopeful and thrive in a country that is currently hanging on a thread.

Chioma Onuegbu

The Nigerian society is poorly structured which makes it hard even to get some basic things.

Personally, I have had my own fair share of the terrible roads, the bad educational system, the bad health care system.

In Nigeria, Everything revolves around how much money you have to be comfortable and attain some certain things. You must have money to make money or to be considered an influential person.

Tobi Adalumo


Every country on the surface of the earth has its ups and downs, but when the negatives outshine the positives over a long period of time and the government does next to nothing to change the situation of things, the government of such a country is referred to as a failed one.

Tobi Adalumo

Sadly, this is the present condition of a once great and respected nation; Nigeria.
There are so many difficult parts to being a Nigerian.
First, is the absence of social, economic and political liberty.
SOCIAL – Any gathering that involves young people having fun, partying and having a good time, SARS officials troop in from nowhere, uninvited, harassing everyone all for nothing. We are referred to as cultists and Yahoo boys and girls just because we are living better than they did in their youth, because we use expensive clothing and gadgets. Our social freedom has been trampled upon and no one seems bothered enough to do something about it.

ECONOMIC – The best jobs and opportunities are hoarded, being reserved for the children of the wealthy and influential in the society, even those of them who do not merit such jobs and opportunities such as scholarships among others. A country that has so much wealth, yet the majority of the populace are poor and can’t boldly boast of three complete meals a day.

POLITICAL – A country that does not involve her youth in the Nation-Building agenda is bound for failure. The youth are said to be the future of a Nation. In Nigeria however, the youth are just there; existing, with no plan for us. Looking at Nigeria, one would realize that it’s the same generation that has been at the helm of affairs from independence till now. How is such a country is supposed to make progress?
This is my country, where I should feel safest, there’s the fear of dying at any time as a by-product of lack of adequacy in securing of lives and property. Travelling from one state to another, one comes across 15-30, sometimes more security checkpoints comprising the Army, Police, Civil Defense, Special Operations Unit amongst others. Still, we hear of armed robberies, kidnappings, rituals among other crimes being committed on these same roads. One then wonders, “What good do these military and para-military officers serve other than specializing at collecting bribes?”

Perhaps, the most difficult part to being an average Nigerian is living each day not knowing what the future holds for you.
Another difficulty, and this might seem funny is trying to convince a foreigner you met on the internet, especially Americans that we don’t live in huts in Nigeria and Africa in general. Most times, I feel like insulting them for making such statements. On the other hand however, I do not blame them. Our leaders have made it so, that asides the initial relegation of Nigeria and Africa by Europeans, they themselves (our leaders) have contributed greatly to this problem by representing us wrongly in the international community. I made a comment in a Play Station Group on Facebook earlier this year. We were to comment on a game that was just released along with our country of origin and residence. I made mine like everyone else, the mistake I made was to type NIGERIA. Next I knew, someone replied me saying “Nigeria?”

How the fuck are you online?

“I heard there’s no electricity in that country.”

I felt ashamed and sorry for myself and my country.

A Dubai citizen made a statement a few months back saying “Dubai has not up ¼ of Nigeria’s natural resources, yet Dubai is one of the fastest, not growing but developing places in the world, because we have a good leader, something which Nigeria lacks.”

After hearing this, I sat to think and wonder if there is indeed hope for this country—and just when I had lost hope, — the youth of Nigeria stsrted a revolution to take control of their future. Read(#EndSARS protests). The greatest of revolution takes time but I know there is hope for Nigeria.

Esther Adekunle

I think the hardest part of being a Nigerian is the fact that we are all constantly in fear. Each time, we hit road all we can do pray and hope we are not kidnapped or even involved in an accident due to the bad roads.

Thank you so much for reading ❤️

What is the hardest part of living in Nigeria?

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Started your natural hair journey or you are about to embark on this journey.

Stagnant growth can be very annoying. You have probably tried out that all the promising hair masks. Watched several YouTube video but your hair still won’t grow past the length that it is now. In this post, I tackled what you might be doing wrong and why your hair isn’t growing past the same length.

First off, you might want to ask yourself the following questions;

What is my hair type? (This will be discussed in another post)

Why is my hair not growing?

What could I be doing wrong?

I complied a list of reasons why your hair isn’t growing and how to grow healthy hair.

  1. Using too much heat

Understand how heat is too much. I know you love the silky, straight hair that comes with flat ironing your hair. Heat damage affects all hair type whether you are natural or relaxed.

Here are signs that you are using too much heat;
✓ Your hair shaft and natural curls becomes destroyed by the use of high and excessive heat.

✓ Your ends are seriously split, more than usual.

Use a heat protection serum on your hair, any time you want to apply heat. Although, it is not guaranteed that it reduces your chances of a damaged hair but it will reduce the possibility while adding a coating of oils to your hair that will protect and nourish it. You can also stretch your hair naturally. A good example of natural stretching is African threading.

2. Using lots of chemicals

If your hair is natural stick to natural products. There are lots of strong and abrasive cleansers(shampoo and conditioners) and this is what they do to the hair;

✓ They irritate the scalp.

✓ They cause weakened hair and regular hair loss. 

✓ They make your hair prone to regular breakage.

If you use these products regularly, you are not going to achieve that hair growth you need.

  1. You are not washing your hair right

Yes, you are washing your hair but are doing it right? Hot water does no good to your hair. It strips your hair of its natural oils, leaving your hair with no natural, valuable oil, making it look dry and brittle and dry hair leads to dandruff and itchiness. Hot water makes your hair over porous, and this prompts breakage and brittleness but warmwater stimulates the flow of blood to the follicles, which encourages hair growth. It open the cuticles on your scalp. This allows you to clean your hair thoroughly. Cold water helps to close the cuticles which gives your hair some much needed shine.

  1. You have unrealistic expectations of hair growth
Image: Toyosi Alonge

Your hair can’t just grow magically in one night or in a week. You don’t have to believe every thing being put out there. You need patience for your hair to growth. Try out new natural products, write out your goals, and give it time to work out in order to achieve a realistic goal.

  1. You are not using essential oils on your hair.
Image credit: naturalliving ideas

Essential oils can help you improve the health of your hair with very little risk of side effects at an affordable price. They’re also easy to use. Making good use of essential oils like coconut oil, tea tree oil, olive oil and lavender oil really helps your oil. There are some many essential oil, find the one that is best suitable for your hair type to yield growth.  

6. You are not taking care of your diet

Image credit: bebeautiful.in

If you eat right your hair will grow right. What you eat affects the growth of your hair. Lacking the right nutrients including vitamins A, C, D and E, zinc, B vitamins, iron, biotin, protein and essential fatty acids may slow down hair growth or even cause hair loss. Drinking lots of water helps too. I mentioned that in my harmattan hair care tips too! You can read more here;

  1. You don’t do protective hair styles

Protective hair styles don’t require daily hair retouching and it tucks hair away and protects it. It retains growth while growing your hair longer and keeping hair soft during the process. It gives you the opportunity to take a break from heat and styling products.
Protective hair styles like; buns, plaits, cornrows, Bantu knots and two strand twists are all protective styles. 

On low manipulation hairstyles, my locs in this picture is a good example.

Some common low manipulation hairdos include braids, flat twists, faux locs, cornrows and wigs.

  1. You do a lot of tight hair styles

If the hair is pulled back too tightly, it can break away from its roots, which can result in splitting, hairweakness, and follicle damage. Make sure you keep the start of the braid loose. Braids that are too tight can also cause tensile stress, which occurs when there is constant tugging on hair follicles.

Styling your hair too often can also be a major reason why your hair isn’t growing. Let your hair breathe.

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The world is so beautiful and we are lucky to be in it. 2020 might have not been your best year but there are so many things to be grateful for. It is the 13th day of December and here are 13 things I am grateful for;

1.  I am grateful for my hands, It is Blogmas day 10 already and typed all of my posts with my hands. I have read lots of books in 2020 and I used my hands to flip through those pages.

2. I am grateful for my subscribers. You all have been there since I started this blog and here we are now. I’m grateful for your support over the years especially during this Blogmas season.

3.  I am grateful for my friends. The support you all have shown me over the years. Even when I want to give up, y’all gave me a reason to keep going.

4.  I am grateful for the gift of life. I am here alive—hale and hearty.

5.  I am grateful for having my personal space— my little corner in parents house where I can be free and feel the best of privacy.

6. I am grateful for my family. They are the best ever, I am grateful I came through my parents and I am grateful to God for keeping us all.

7.  I am grateful for 2020. It was a year of self discovery for me, though it isn’t my best year but I made it to December. I became more intentional about my life this year. I am glad i saw 2020.

8.  I am grateful for love. Love is everything to me and it compasses all. I am grateful I found love—this does matter the type of relationship or situation.

9. I am grateful for the unexpected surprises I have had this year. This doesn’t refer to material goods but God surprised me in beautiful ways this year.

10. I am grateful for my health. Even through the storms, God still make a way of healing.

11. I am grateful for having access to plenty of drinkable water.

12. I am grateful for the random act of kindness I have received this year.

13. I am grateful for all that I have received from God yet because I know He is making better plans for me.

What are you grateful for?

Thank you so much for reading!

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It is really funny how everyday is moving fast. It is a few days to Christmas and managing your health might be the last thing on your mind with the surplus foods and stress that comes with holiday. Here’s is a few tips that can help you stay mentally and physically healthy during the holidays.

  1. Practice gratitude 

It’s a season to be thankful. Take time to notice and reflect upon the things you are thankful for experience more positive emotions, feel more alive, sleep better, express more compassion and kindness. I would recommend you keep a gratitude journal. Write what you are grateful for—this is the best time to remind yourself. Practicing gratitude help to set an uplifting mood throughout the day.

2. Rest up

Relax, recover, recuperate and regain your energy.  You deserve that day off to rest, you have worked through the entire year.

3. Eat Mindfully

This is a good time for your taste buds but a bad time for your waistline. Eat in moderation, Sit and slow down, don’t rush your food.

4. Boost your immune system

Take your vitamins supplement, include green vegetables and fruits in your diet. Drink lots of water to stay hydrated. Exercise/ stay active.

5. Practice self care

Most people have dealt with stressful or crazy jobs. Take this period to unplug, spend time doing what you love. Spoil yourself, read that book and watch that movie. Have fun!

Thank you so much for reading!

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